Monday, December 30, 2013

Looking Back

I had my last day at Bruno’s and I’m really going to miss that place. I know I complained about it a lot but the truth of the matter is that it was a place that provided stability while I was making a huge career transition and I had a lot of good experiences while working there.

I said good-bye to Cara and my regulars and walked out after closing for the last time. There was also a sense of closure when it came to Brad. He was connected to Bruno’s and always would be but leaving there cut the last string I had connected to him. He no longer knows where I live or work and I’d blocked his phone number and e-mails long ago. He has no way to contact me at all which fits in nicely with my plan for a clean slate in 2014 (especially considering how toxic 2013 was and how Brad was the person that kicked it off with me).


Christmas was quiet and exactly what I wanted. I made a pot roast for myself (LOTS of leftovers) and watched Home Alone as I opened gifts. My mom and I are talking but just barely. When I called on Christmas Day she answered it with a chilly “Hello” and asked me how I was doing before giving the receiver to my dad before I could even answer her.

So.


I decided to go back over the therapy goals I made in June to see how far I’ve come before 2014 arrives. Sort of like a progress report or something.

No more dating for at least 6 months

I achieved that just a few weeks ago and I’m very proud of myself for that. The past 6 months have taught me a lot about myself and I don’t think I would have been able to do all of the really hard, ugly self-analysis I’ve done if I had a relationship to focus on.

I am celibate for an indefinite period of time

This goes without saying. No boyfriend, no sex. Although I don’t count self-service as going against this…it is a fundamental human need after all.

I need to get out more and socialize with the girls, maybe make some new friends and connect with old ones

I think I’ve done a good job with socializing more with my friends but I think we can all agree that on the whole “making new friends” front that was a bust what with Amber turning into a stalker.

I need to get over Mike

This is, admittedly, a work in progress but it’s getting easier every day.

I have to make a 5 year plan for my stage managing career

I did this after I signed my contract for The Glass Penny and I’m very happy with it.

I will quit my job at Bruno’s by the new year

Done!

I want to take better care of myself so I’m joining a gym and taking another cooking class

Since I’ve started running with Sasha, a gym isn’t really necessary. And I’ve found a ton of food blogs with easy recipes that I’ve started trying so I’m not really taking a cooking class but I AM learning how to cook with the help of the internet and youtube.

I might start doing yoga

I tried doing yoga but I just couldn’t get into it. Maybe I’ll try it again someday but it wasn’t for me.

When I do start dating again, I need to take things slowly and communicate my feelings appropriately and in a timely manner

I do think I’ve gotten better on the communication front in general which I hope will be something that translates to being in a relationship when I’m ready.

I will develop and use more healthy coping mechanisms

I think I’ve improved a lot in this area but I think there’s room for improvement. I do think I’ve been coping with what happened with Amber in a pretty healthy way.


So, in reviewing my therapy/life goals from six months ago, I think I’ve been doing really well and have made a lot of awesome progress. Knowing that I’ve worked hard to accomplish the majority of these goals makes me excited for 2014 and what lies ahead.

4 comments:

  1. Good for Faith. It sounds like she is in a much healthier place and may be ready to move forward in a relationship. Can't wait to see if there is a romantic future with Adam.

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  2. Whew!!! I'm finally caught up. I hate that I didn't know about this blog until a week ago. This one is in my top 3. The story catches you and pulls you in and you can't stop reading. Del, you are seriously very talented and i'm honored to have come across your blog. Thank you for sharing this with us!

    Now, I was so sad to see Faith and Mike break up. That broke my heart. And I thoroughly agree with what another poster said about Mike just telling her that he was seeing someone else. I secretly, but not so secretly, hope they can work things out and get back together. They were so sickenly sweet and perfect for each other. I do not think that Adam/Stormy is her guy. I think they are better of as just friends. He's been a great support for her and at times what/who she needed him to be, but beyond that, I just don't see it. I also hope that she NEVER hears from Sean again. If she does it'll be too soon.

    On another note, I'm anxious to learn more about Zoey and Wesley's relationship. I agree that we have not seen the last of him, but at the same time, we don't know much about him or their relationship. I think that was on purpose, though. I can't wait to delve into that more.

    This is turning into a longer post than I planned so I'll end it here and just wait for more. Thanks for writing!!

    Lady

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  3. Hey, Lady. Long time no see. You have room to talk. Your blog was awesome! I still go back and read As We Lay. IT WAS SO GOOD! Are you writing anymore? mum

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  4. Hey Mum! Yes indeed, long time no see.

    I have not been writing. For some reason my heart and head just can't seem to find their way back to it. I don't know, maybe once I get back settled in the real world I'll start back up again. But thanks for the kind words. (I still go back every now and then and read it to think of how I can add to it, although that particular part of the story is done, I think.)

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