Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Lost Girls

“I’m not sure what to do anymore.” I said, “Faith barley eats, she only leaves the house unless it’s to go to work. Whenever I go over there she’s just laying down staring at the wall.”

“We need to do something.” Zoey said, “She’s been like this for almost a month.”

“Can you blame her though?” Penny asked.

The three of us were sitting in my living room. I had invited Penny and Zoey over to figure out how we could help Faith.



“No. I don’t.” I said quietly.

This whole situation would have been bad just on its own but what happened right after Mike died made it 1000 times worse. Once Faith left the hospital, she called me and told me what had happened. Penny, Zoey, and I rushed to her apartment to comfort her. She was devastated but we all agreed she would get through this with time. It wasn’t until a few days later that things just started going up in flames. Faith called Sarah, Mike’s little sister, to get information about his funeral but Sarah didn’t answer her phone.

Eventually, Mike’s obituary was posted online with information about the funeral and visitation. The visitation was closed to family only. When Faith showed up the morning of the funeral, Maggie had her escorted out of the funeral home by the police and told her that if she saw her again that day she’d have her arrested and file a restraining order for her and her entire family. It caused a huge scene at Mike’s funeral and Faith told us that Sarah and Claire just stood and watched as this all went down.
Since then, Faith has been completely detached from everything around her and everyone. Penny, Zoey and I have tried so many things to try and get her out of the house. We offered to take her to see Mike’s grave and have our own little funeral for him but Faith refused.

I had gone to Faith’s apartment that morning, before Zoey and Penny met me at my place, and it was obvious she was getting worse, not better. I took Sasha outside and cleaned the dishes in the sink, I also tried to get Faith to shower and go for a walk but she just rolled over to the other side of her bed and said nothing. I opened the curtains in her bedroom so she’d at least get some sunshine before I left.

“We can’t force her to do anything.” Penny said, “She has to do it on her own. Maybe she’ll get better with more time. For now she IS functioning. She’s getting herself to work.”

“She hasn’t made any positive progress in a month.” Zoey pointed out, “The other day, I went over there and she was clutching one of his sweatshirts. It had been clear she’d been crying but she wouldn’t talk to me about it.”

“So, what can we do for her?” I asked.

“I don’t think there’s anything we CAN do for her right now. She’s grieving in her own way. I don’t know how I’d be able to function if Dan died let alone if I had been barred from his funeral.” Penny said.

“We just need to keep going over there and taking care of her. Letting her know we’re here for her.” Zoey said.

I didn’t like that plan. There had to be something more for us to do. And I was sure there was but it was risky. It could either completely destroy my friendship with Faith and make things worse for her or it could help her exponentially. I just wasn’t sure if I was ready to take such a risk. I looked at Penny and Zoey and thought about telling them what I had planned but decided it was best not to involve them, that way they had deniability if things hit the fan.


No. This was something I was going to have to do on my own.

20 comments:

  1. Damn, she's going to call adam isn't she?!

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    1. I thought she might call Theo even though he distanced himself after Anna's death. He would know about how to deal with Faith's situation of grief.

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  2. Adam to the rescue!

    Why weren't Faith's friends at the funeral with her?

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  3. I literally can't even deal with how shitty his family is. They never got the ring back did they? I'm sure Maggie will be after it if not!

    Ooooohhhh I hope she calls Adam...wait...too soon?

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  4. The real kicker is that no one but Faith knows that she was questioning her engagement, so this adds a layer to Faith's grief that must be awful. I think counseling for Faith would be a great course of action. As much as I loved Adam, I don't think he is the answer, here. Too much emotion to process.

    Maggie can rot in hell, for all I care and I hope she does. She is a monster.
    Sara

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  5. I agree with the comments above, I think Adam is going to receive a phone call but I don't think the timing is right, it's just going to throw everything off for Faith.

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  6. I'm confused as to whose point of view this post is in?

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    1. I think it's supposed to be Molly. Is it bad that I want something bad to happen to Maggie?

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    2. Not at all, anonymous #2. That woman is a real piece of work, and it's gonna bite her in the ass one day.

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    3. Thank you - I got to the end and was still thinking "from WHOSE perspective is this being written"??! It isn't obvious at all and I had to go back to the intro post from Del to make certain I hadn't missed it there too.

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  7. Shame on Claire and Sarah. They should have stood up for Faith, she had every right to be there and Mike would want her there. Maggie had no right to behave this way and when the time comes that Maggie demands the engagement romg back Faith needs to say no. Mike gave that ring to her and she is under no obligation to give it back.

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    1. It was really disappointing to read about their actions here, yeah. Poor Faith. I'd normally be surprised that Sarah at least didn't stand up for her, but grief makes people react in odd ways.

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    2. Yeah, their brother just died. I know after something traumatic like this, I'd be so drained in every aspect of the word that I can't imagine trying to go head to head with someone like Maggie, especially when he was both of their sibling (fairly certain I just broke at least 4 grammar rules there, but you know what I mean...). I think they're all just trying to keep it together and comfort each other right now. It takes all your energy just to be up and out of bed, much less trying to deal with Maggie's crazy.

      But I will be surprised if at least Sarah doesn't reach out to her after some time passes.

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  8. I don't understand the point in having Maggie win and win during the whole duration of their interaction. I am sad to say I know people like Maggie in real life and reality is they hardly win. They have people alienated most of the time. And the very few people who do stuck with them are basically emotionally abused introverts who have very low self esteem because if that abuser. The two people I know like this keep their kids away from everyone they feel "wronged" them and they don't usually don't show up to family events or funerals because they are bitter and can't be around people who "hurt" them.

    I just don't see this as an actual portrayal as someone with an awful attitude and behavior like hers. To have her be surrounded by well rounded good people who just let her behave awful is unrealistic.

    Also Faith had plenty of people at the funeral TT at could verify her place in mikes life. His co workers. Even any aunts or relatives that were at his mom and dads funeral that must have met her. I don't undbestand how we are suppose to believe the police just hauled her out of the funeral and not one person said hey isn't that mikes girlfriend? Unless it was just his sisters there.

    The level of awful you are writing Maggie has me having a hard time grasping the description of her life you gave us. Sure her husband seems annoyed by her but that seems to be it. Its on a ridiculous scale at this point.

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    1. Sorry about typos. Writing on cracked iPad. :(

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    2. Can't stand Maggie. But even so, they have every right to close the service to whoever they deem they want there. She unfortunately CAN say to Faith she's not welcome, especially if her sisters aren't standing up to her at all. I think Faith should definitely go pay her respects to him on her own. Hopefully she will.

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  9. Love this blog...i think it would be bitter sweet that she would end up pregnant. ..and his crappy family would never know!!

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    1. Because that would be awesome for the child....not.

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  10. I'm sorry, but calling Adam would be the WORST idea ever!!! Her fiancé just DIED! It would hurt her and it will obviously hurt him. If that's what she's doing, so should not do it.

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    1. I think it is the worst decision because it would hurt Adam. I feel like Adam would feel like he was second choice even if deep down he wasn't and it would seriously end things between the both of them for good.

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